CAUSE FOR DISPLEASURE

I have this friend (actually a former girl-friend) now living in the UK (a Britico). We just hooked up again on Facebook after about 15 years. She is now divorced, and I just helped her break off another relationship heading nowhere fast. I know your question! "Are you sure you didn't do it for yourself?" No, I didn't. I'm happily and unrepentantly married with 2 kids. My wife under the same roof with me is enough wahala!

Anyway, my friend is closer to 40 years, broke from over-borrowing for her ex-bobo's moribund business, and neck-deep in bank debts, which she has to keep 2 jobs in order to meet repayments. She was always a nice girl. She believes in spoiling her man, and lavishing attention and gifts on him. I had a running battle with her years back because I wouldn't let her pay taxi fares, and I refused to let her augment my school-fees. She is that kind of girl. A truly rare breed nowadays. Thanks to the merciless and dastardly grab-it-all mindset the devil has infested the men of this generation with.

She has given up on love, and is only looking for a companion to share her later years with. The problem is - she keeps getting into relationships with guys that want to be babied, and expected the lady to do all the work to keep the couple gong. At least, 3 Naija guys (including her ex) had used her as resident permit to the UK. Yet, marital happiness seems to have eluded her.

My thinking here is that she needs to change her mindset, her out-look, and re-define what kind of man she wants. The light complexioned, tall, swaggering, adonis type can't serve her purpose. In fact, in these times of physical consciousness, it seems the finer/taller they come, the stupder they are. I'm sorry if I appear to be bitter on behalf of my friend, but this is for my mom, my 5 sisters, and my daughter. Don't we have good folks anymore?

Please let me know what I can tell, or help my friend with, that will make a difference.